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Ken Macko's avatar

I remember you mentioning this story once before.

Sounds like maybe Doug sent Robert back to you after such a long timeframe to watch over you. And maybe Doug felt after the two missteps it was time for you to get it right. And Robert had that internal feeling Doug was really there, and thus that quiet conversation.

Is he influencing Robert ? Only you 3 know for sure. You would know the signs Doug would send you.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Interesting thoughts, Ken. You always have the most worthwhile thoughts and ideas. I guess in answer to your question, anything is possible.

The two mis-steps were lessons for me, Ken, things I was to learn on my human journey. More time dating each would have shown me their true colors that I was not to trust who they showed me.

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Ken Macko's avatar

Learning is the correct description. Don’t beat yourself up on it.

In light of your experience with Doug, you were most likely having the need for companionship. You were probably blinded by the emptiness and grief. There’s no guarantee that if you dated longer, colors would have emerged sooner. It gave you the opportunity to see that everything isn’t sugar and spice, that people aren’t the same and have their flaws.

It was destined to be a learning experience and in all honesty, it made you stronger, wiser and probably a little more spiritual. A short term negative worked into a long term very positive.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

You are so perceptive, Ken! What you said makes a lot of sense. In a lot of ways, I was naive, too. I thought everyone was like me and knew the value of compromise, honesty, etc.

It did make me stronger.

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Dave Karpowicz's avatar

CJ, A lovely love story on so many levels. D

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C.J. Heck's avatar

I appreciate that, Dave. Thank you.

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Simone Senisin's avatar

Sweet C.J, I remember this story 🥰. I think what Robert did was deeply respectful, to both you and Doug, to be able to honour that love. And yes, Doug would been feeling that message. What a blessing 🙏 💜

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C.J. Heck's avatar

He’s a one of a kind type of guy, Simone, just like Doug was. Having the love of my life twice was a blessing for me. I’ve been very fortunate, especially after the two divorces.

I hope you’re having a good week, my friend! 😊❤️💕

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Simone Senisin's avatar

Yes, you have 🥰. Yes, l have just come back from the surf 🏄🏽‍♀️🌊. A wee bit cold, but it was great.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

How far do you live from the water?

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Simone Senisin's avatar

Closest beach is 22 miles but the one l meet my friend at for a surf is 35 miles 🌊💙

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Okay, thanks. I was under the impression you lived just above the beach. But 22 or 35 miles isn’t too bad. 😊😊

I hope you had a great day, Simone.

❤️💕

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Kathleen Hobbs's avatar

When I read the part where Robert wanted to go to Doug's grave, I got a little misty eyed. What a thoughtful, caring person so happy that you were able to find the love of your life.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Hello Kathleen. Robert was actually the second love of my life. Yes, I was very fortunate to have found love like that two times. 💕😊❤️

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